Sensual Domination and How to Use It As A Cam Girl
Doing a show that involves sensual domination is a little different than your average domination session. It’s really about controlling your partners sensual experience. For some customers this means giving up total control and others this means that you take turns but the idea is to focus on being in control of someone’s pleasure rather than focusing on pain or punishment. These kinds of shows don’t involve humiliation or making the customer feel like a slave but rather them giving up control to you willingly knowing that you are going to give them the most pleasure possible.
You want to avoid the more common methods of domination and focus your energy in creating a long last pleasurable encounter for your customer. When someone gives into their dom webcam model and allows themselves to stop thinking this is commonly called “subspace”. The idea of “subspace” is that the submissive goes into a place in their mind where they are calm and relaxed because they don’t have to think about or control what is going on in a situation and simply enjoy the experience they’re having. Because this is an easier state of mind to get into when you’re experiencing pleasure than it is when you’re experiencing pain this can lead to longer lasting sessions with your customers.
Sometimes you’ll hear sensual domination referred to as “soft” domination. However, even though you’re avoiding some of the more painful aspects of dominating someone you can still use many of the same tools that you use in a regular domination session such as blindfolds, ropes or handcuffs, and things like ice, feathers, oils, and wax. This can also include various kinds of role playing (for example role playing that you are your customer’s boss and that in order to keep his/her job she has to do exactly what you say). This can also involve body part worship such as feet or breasts.
Instead of humiliation or putting down your customer you want to give them a lot of praise and attention. There may be very mild pain involved like light spanking but you really want your focus to be on the customer’s pleasure. If you do decide to use any kind of pain during these sessions you want it to compliment the pleasure and not push any limits that your customer might have.
Sensual domination requires skill by the webcam model. You have to be very patient and really understand what turns your customer on. It’s always a good idea, no matter what kind of show you’re doing with a customer, to ask a lot of questions and really have an open line of communication about what they like and don’t like. This way you can cater your show specifically to their needs.
Domination and especially sensual domination can be some of the most fun a webcam model can have. Just imagine it, having multiple loyal slaves willing to submit to your whims. Having a desire to be in control, especially as a webcam model is a good thing because it opens you up to a world of shows that many models online don’t know how to do.
There are a few characteristics that will definitely help you along the way to becoming a great dom.
Being assertive
Sure, this might seem obvious but it’s definitely one of the most important factors to giving good domination shows.
Being a good dom webcam model when you’re webcam modeling is all about knowing what you want and being able to communicate that to your customers. Being polite doesn’t work in these kinds of scenarios you want to assert yourself and give your customers very direct commands as to what you want them to do.
Confidence is key
It’s really important if you plan on doing dom webcam model shows to not only be confident in what you’re doing but to be confident in yourself. Submissive customers, especially the ones that have been doing dom webcam model sessions with webcam models for a while can tell if you’re confident or not right away and if you’re not it’s unlikely that they will take you for a show. In order to give a great domination show you can’t worry about what your customer thinks of you or if you’re doing something right, you just have to be sure of yourself so that the customer can feel comfortable giving you control.
However, what’s great is that doing dom webcam model shows and being in charge of someone else’s pleasure can really help your self-esteem. It’s definitely worth giving it a shot because a lot of webcam models find that as soon as they start giving commands it really makes them feel much more confident on camera. You want to put yourself in the frame of mind that you are an absolute goddess and worthy of being worshipped. Even if you don’t believe that at first, remember this is all pretend, fake it and eventually domination will come very naturally to you.
Good communication skills
It’s really important during any show to communicate with your customers and get them to open up to you but it’s twice as important when you’re doing domination of any kind. You have to remember that the customer is trusting you with a lot and so if you’re not willing and open to finding out what it is they like and what they’re comfortable with there’s a possibility you could push them too far or make them uncomfortable and then lose your customer. Encourage all your customers to talk to you about what they like and what they’re looking to get out of their session with you and you will find that overall you will have much happier customers.
Never assume anything when it comes to domination. For example you might think it would be fun to tell your customer to spank themselves for you however, if this is something they’re not up for or are uncomfortable with they will quickly jump right out of “subspace” and possibly even right out of you private session.
Dedication and responsibility
There’s a lot of responsibility when it comes to being in control of someone else. Even if it’s just sexually. You have to remember that both their physical and emotional safety are wrapped up in your choices as a dominant. Of course, you’re a webcam model and everything that’s done is from the safety of the other side of a computer screen. Your submissive customers can log off at any time but you never want to make them feel like you wish them any kind of harm, even when you’re being assertive. Remember that safety should come first and that you should never ask a customer to do something that would cause them any kind of long term physical or emotional damage.
Being respectful
Being respectful might not be the first quality you might think of when you’re imagining what makes a good dom webcam model but it’s very important that you respect both yourself (and your own personal limits) as well as the customer (and any limits they may have).
Whether you’re doing a sensual domination show or just your standard dom webcam model show with a customer you should always respect that there are going to be things they do and do not want to do. Sure they may be expecting or even wanting a certain amount of humiliation or pain but this doesn’t give you license to be abusive. Find out what they’re comfortable with and respect that at all times.
Controlling your own power
It’s important to have a certain amount of self-control when you’re dominating a customer. The truth is that even though you have a lot of ability to be creative and have a lot of fun with your customers you can’t simply do whatever you want. It’s about using your power over your submissive in a way that ultimately gives them pleasure.
The ability to be patient
There’s a lot of patience that’s involved in being a dom webcam model. Not only patience with your customer but patience in learning how to be a good dom webcam model. Even if domination comes naturally to you as a webcam model there are still plenty of things that will come up during a session that could surprise you. It’s important to practice and maybe even research what makes and good dom webcam model and how to give your customers the best experience possible. The more you do these kinds of shows the easier they will become until eventually you’ll have plenty of loyal customers who enjoy giving up their control to you.