What is Findom?
Findom, or financial domination, is a fetish in which one person derives pleasure from being financially dominated or controlled by another person.
The person providing findom, often referred to as a “financial dominatrix,” may demand money or gifts from the submissive individual, who is referred to as a “pay pig” or “money slave.” Findom is often a component of BDSM.
To be successful at findom, financial dominatrixes must understand the desires and fetishes of their pay pigs and cater to their needs. They must be skilled at building relationships with their clients, as trust and communication are key components of BDSM relationships.
Findom arrangements fail without clear boundaries and communication. Anyone considering engaging in findom should have an honest discussion with the pay pig, establish clear boundaries, and prioritize the safety and well-being of both parties.
What Does A Pay Pig Want?
A pay pig may want to feel a variety of things depending on their individual desires and motivations, but some common feelings that they may seek include:
1. Financial submission and servitude: Many pay pigs enjoy feeling financially dominated and controlled by a financial dominatrix. They may enjoy the feeling of being obedient and subservient to their financial dominatrix.
2. Humiliation: Some pay pigs may enjoy being humiliated or degraded by their financial dominatrix. This may involve tasks that are embarrassing or demeaning, but still within the limits set by both parties.
3. Gratitude: Many pay pigs enjoy expressing their gratitude and appreciation to their financial dominatrix. They may enjoy feeling like they are providing a valuable service or being of use to their financial dominatrix.
4. Excitement and arousal: For some pay pigs, the act of financial domination itself can be a source of excitement and sexual arousal. They may enjoy the thrill of giving up control and being at the mercy of their financial dominatrix.
Ultimately, what a pay pig wants to feel may vary based on their individual desires and motivations. The more you ask them, the more you will learn.
How Do You Easily Start A Findom Relationship?
EXAMPLE SCRIPT
Pay Pig (PP): Hi do you do findom?
Financial Dominatrix (FD): Hello there. Yes, I offer a range of services for pay pigs like yourself. Are you interested in exploring the world of financial domination?
PP: I’ve been looking for someone to control my finances for a while now.
FD: Great, I’m glad to hear that. Before we start, I’d like to establish some boundaries and get to know you better. What are your financial limits? How much are you willing to spend on our relationship?
PP: I’m willing to spend up to $500 a month.
FD: Okay, that sounds reasonable. What kind of activities are you interested in? As far as my limits, there’s really only one: I only do online domination. Meeting in person is not an option.
PP: I’m interested in online domination, too.
FD: Sounds good. I offer a range of services, including custom videos, photo sets, and chats. Let me know what you’re interested in, and we can work out the details.
PP: I don’t know… what do you think?
FD: How about I make you a custom video where I tell you how to spend your money.
PP: I think that sounds good.
FD: Perfect. That will be $50 for a 5-minute video. Once I receive payment, I’ll start working on your custom video.
PP: Okay, I just sent the payment. Can’t wait to see the video!
FD: Thank you. I’ll start working on your video. In the meantime, if you have any questions or would like to discuss future sessions, feel free to message me.
PP: Thanks. I’ll definitely be in touch. I’m really enjoying our relationship so far.
FD: I’m glad to hear that. I look forward to continuing our journey together.
[Time passes]
PP: Hey, FD. Just wanted to check in and see if you have any new content or activities planned.
FD: Hi there. Yes, I have some new videos and photo sets available for purchase. I also have a new task for you, if you’re interested.
PP: Absolutely. What do you have in mind?
Starter Tasks
Every pay pig is different, and what they find exciting may vary from person to person. However, here are some common findom tasks that some pay pigs may find exciting:
- Tribute games, where the pay pig sends tributes in response to certain prompts or triggers set by the financial dominatrix.
- Financial goal-setting, where the pay pig is given a specific financial goal to work towards, such as saving a certain amount of money or earning a certain amount of income.
- Assigning tasks related to personal development or career advancement, such as completing an educational course or networking with professionals in a certain field.
- Requiring the pay pig to engage in behaviors that reinforce their submission, such as using specific language when addressing the financial dominatrix or engaging in humiliating tasks.
- Requiring the pay pig to perform tasks related to the financial dominatrix’s pleasure, such as purchasing gifts or funding a luxury experience.
It is important to note that any findom tasks should be discussed and agreed upon between the financial dominatrix and the pay pig, and all activities should be consensual and safe.
Additional Task Ideas
- Writing a thank you letter for each tribute given
- Setting a daily or weekly budget for the pay pig to follow
- Requiring the pay pig to track all of their expenses
- Assigning tasks such as cleaning or organizing for the pay pig to complete
- Requiring the pay pig to maintain a certain level of physical fitness
- Setting goals for the pay pig to achieve, such as earning a certain amount of money or saving a certain amount of money
- Requiring the pay pig to donate to a specific charity or cause
- Assigning reading or educational tasks for the pay pig to complete
- Requiring the pay pig to write daily affirmations or humiiations
- Setting a savings goal for the pay pig to work towards
- Requiring the pay pig to invest in a certain stock or cryptocurrency
- Assigning tasks related to personal development, such as learning a new skill or hobby
- Setting a goal for the pay pig to achieve a certain level of success in their career or business
- Requiring the pay pig to maintain a daily journal
- Setting a goal for the pay pig to achieve a certain level of physical or mental wellness
- Requiring the pay pig to attend networking events or conferences
- Assigning tasks related to social media management or branding
- Setting a goal for the pay pig to achieve a certain level of financial independence
- Requiring the pay pig to read financial books or attend financial workshops
- Assigning tasks related to decluttering or minimizing possessions
- Setting a goal for the pay pig to achieve a certain level of financial literacy
- Requiring the pay pig to create a budget or financial plan
- Assigning tasks related to developing a business plan or launching a new venture
- Setting a goal for the pay pig to achieve a certain level of financial stability
- Requiring the pay pig to volunteer or give back to their community.
More Domination Related Tasks
Here are some non-explicit examples of tasks that a financial dominatrix might assign to a pay pig that could be considered embarrassing:
- Write out a list of financial goals that you have not met yet, and send it to your financial dominatrix.
- Take a photo of yourself holding a sign that says “I’m a pay pig for [name of financial dominatrix]” and send it to her.
- Wear a piece of clothing or accessory that your financial dominatrix chooses for you, such as a particular color or type of hat, and wear it all day.
- Change your social media profile picture to a photo of your financial dominatrix, and leave it up for a set amount of time.
- Complete a physical task that is difficult or uncomfortable, such as running in place or doing jumping jacks, while your financial dominatrix watches via video chat.
Here are some additional ideas for tasks that a financial dominatrix might assign to a pay pig that could be considered embarrassing but not explicit:
- Change the wallpaper on your work computer and phone to a picture of your financial dominatrix and keep it that way for a set amount of time.
- Use a specific phrase or term of endearment when addressing your financial dominatrix, such as “my queen” or “goddess.”
- Write a poem or letter expressing your devotion to your financial dominatrix and post it on social media.
- Wear a piece of clothing that your financial dominatrix chooses for you, such as a certain color or type of shirt, and wear it all day in public.
- Record a video of yourself singing or reciting a song or poem about your financial dominatrix, and post it online.
- Hang a framed photo of the financial dominatrix in their home.
Any tasks involving embarrassment or humiliation should be agreed upon by both parties and should not cause any long-term harm or psychological distress. Tasks should be within the limits and boundaries set by both the financial dominatrix and the pay pig, and should be safe, consensual, and respectful.
Hope this helps!